I don't know if it has happened to you,
but I know it has happened to me. Someone does or says something and
totally irrationally you bark back a response and go into defend mode
like a Porcupine sticking up its quills.
Why does that happen? The reason it
happens is because somehow what has been done or said triggers a very
painful memory and our response is to find some violent way to
protect ourselves. This is because whatever pain we are carrying
has not fully healed and we receive the message as a dagger heading
for our wound to inflict further damage.
How should we respond to people when
their quills go up? With love, compassion, empathy and some more
love. Think of love like a blanket and as we throw it over the
porcupine we are able to approach and then wrap our arms around it to
assure it that our intentions are good.
Love does cover a multitude of sins and
conquers all our fears.
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